I’d “Sooner” Not – Part 2

As I mentioned in Part one of “I’d “Sooner” Not”, driving around Oklahoma City has brought back memories. Here is another early one of our time when we first arrived here 38 (or maybe it was 39) years ago.

During one of the early days of my arrival here in June, I was driving to an office when I saw something very familiar, but also very different. As I drove past it I realized it was the drive-in restaurant where I had my first job when we first arrived in OKC. It was a different name, but the exact same layout and location, even though many things around it were different. A few days later I was in the area again and this time I stopped to take some photos.

Charcoal Oven, Oklahoma City

The sign now reads “Charcoal Oven” but it used to be Bonaparte’s Drive-in in the late 70’s and that multi-story building behind it wasn’t there at the time. To the left, behind the silver or gray car, you can see the “restaurant” building which was just a kitchen, line prep area, pick up window, office and storage rooms. You would drive in on this side of the sign, pick up your order and drive out or park on the other side of the sign. On busy nights, the line of cars waiting in line on the street would block cars from pulling out onto the street unless someone was nice enough to leave a space at the exit.

My first job in OKC was as a night manager at a popular, local drive-in only restaurant named Bonaparte’s Drive-In. Back in the late 50’s and early 60’s its main claim to fame was that you could drive through, order your food and then park under a covered area and young ladies in skates would deliver your food to your car on one of those trays that hung off the car’s door and you could sit and eat and talk with your passenger(s). The menu was a standard one of burgers, fries, onion rings, cokes, and shakes.

By the time I arrived in the late 70’s almost everything was the same except the young ladies would just walk your order out and a new menu item had been added a few years before; fried pickles. I’d never heard of such a thing, but they were a huge hit in OKC. The general manager, a nice guy named Jim Riley, was also experimenting in the kitchen with another new (for this establishment) menu addition; fried chicken. Jim managed the place during the day and I managed it at night, but we had about an hour overlap in our schedules and he was training me in how to cook his fried chicken in a sort of high-tech (for the time) pressure cooker/fryer machine.

Friday and Saturday nights the line of cars waiting to get in extended out the property and a half-mile or so out into the street, which was called N.W. Expressway, a four-lane street separated by a median strip. We didn’t close until 2 or 3 am on those nights and the bulk of our business at that time of the day (night? morning?) came from local bars that had closed at 1 or 2 am, if I’m remembering the times correctly.

Jim finally got the process down for cooking his fried chicken and when we added it to the menu I tapped into my negligible drawing skills to produce a cartoon image of him holding a drumstick up in his right hand while wearing a superhero-style spandex suit, complete with cape, and a large “C” overlapping a large “R” for Colonel Riley on his chest as his left arm clutched a handleless bucket full of chicken to his side. He seemed proud of that drawing and hung it in the office area for all to see.

I also suggested we put on the drive-in marquee “Come try Colonel Riley’s NEW Fried Chicken, Best in the City” which he did but one day later the lawyers from Kentucky Fried Chicken (which had a restaurant about a mile down the road) called and the owner of Bonaparte’s said we had to take down the “Colonel Riley” portion, lol. You can guess why.

I had started working there in July or August and I was still there by the time winter rolled around. I was sitting in the office one night doing paperwork when one of my crew suddenly said, “Hey look, it’s snowing!” and I looked up from the desk and out the window to see that it was indeed. That was the first time I had seen snow in person and not on TV or a movie. I was pretty excited.

That excitement certainly faded once I saw the dirty, nasty mess the white snow had become the next day. And it completely lost its appeal when our car broke down and we had no extra money to buy the parts for a few weeks and I had to walk the 5 miles from our apartment to the restaurant and then 5 miles back. A few days later my shoes had holes in the soles, so I had to put on a pair of socks, then wrap my feet in empty plastic bread bags, then put on another pair of socks so I could walk to and from work through the snow and ice without my feet getting soaking wet, They were still freezing cold, but at least they were dry. I would take off the outer pair of socks and hang them in the office to dry while I was working and then put back on the bread bags and now damp socks to walk back home.

Map showing miles between apartment complex and restaurant.

Today, as you can see from the photo above, the place is called “Charcoal Oven” but everything, from the outside at least, looks the same. Of course there are LOTS of additions and changes to the area during the past almost four decades. Where I parked next door to take the photo above used to be a Shakey’s Pizza, but today is some kind of credit union office. N.W. Expressway expanded from 4 lanes to 8 lanes and there are SO many more businesses along the street than there used to be.

I looked online for photos of the old Bonaparte’s sign, but had no luck in finding any. I did come across this post in an online forum; “bonapartes closed down in ’84/’85, they had a big blowout on the last night, had cars from all over the state lining the street to get in.”

 
This is probably the end of the “I’d “Sooner” Not” posts because sometimes going back is just not what we need to do. But thanks for reading!

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Throwback Thursday – The Boys Are Back In Town-May 2001

Today we go back to May of 2001 and my younger brother Mark and I are visiting our mom at her home.

Jeff, Barbara, and Mark May 2001

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Mom Would Have Been 82 Today

Here’s a photo of my mom back in 1990 when she was working at the Deaf Services Center in Ocala, Florida as an interpreter for the deaf. Mom would have been 82 today.

Mom in 1990

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Oklahoma City National Memorial & Museum

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On April 19, 1995, at 9:02 am, the single largest act of domestic terrorism our country has ever experienced took place at the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. It was a day that began like any other day for the Federal workers, visitors to the various agencies in the building and children in the daycare center for workers’ children.

The eventual death count reached 168, including 19 children. One was a nurse who was struck in the head by falling debris as she worked to treat victims still trapped in the building. Hundreds of others were injured in the blast and subsequent building collapse, some for life.

President Bill Clinton said at the time, “The bombing in Oklahoma City was an attack on innocent children and defenseless citizens. It was an act of cowardice and it was evil. The United States will not tolerate it, and I will not allow the people of this country to be intimidated by evil cowards.”

The aphorism of the museum and memorial is this;

“We come here to remember those who were killed, those who survived and those changed forever. May all who leave here know the impact of violence. May this memorial offer comfort, strength, peace, hope and serenity.”

When Cindy and I visited New York City in January of 2013, we decided we could not visit the 9-11 Memorial because we did not think we could endure the empathetic pain associated with it.

I had the same feeling of dread when I visited the Oklahoma City National Memorial & Museum on Saturday, June 27th and after walking through the memorial and museum, I wish I had listened to that sense of dread and skipped the visit. It was soul-wrenching to listen to the sound of the blast that was recorded during a Water Reserve hearing in the building next to the Murrah building; to hear the screams of those who were injured and killed; to feel the fear and to see the carnage; and to re-live the tv news footage. At the end of my visit, I could not find the “offer of comfort, strength, peace, hope and serenity.” only a feeling of depression and sadness in the very core of my being.

All I can share with you are these photos.

Aerial view of Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

Illustration showing the area from an aerial view and pointing out the historical and memorial locations.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum entrance sign

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum fence

The first fence was erected to protect the site of the Murrah Building and almost immediately people began to leave tokens of love and hope on the fence. Those items now total over 80,000 in number. Some are preserved in the archives. Today, more than 200 feet of the original chain link fence give people the continued opportunity to leave tokens of their own.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum reflecting pool

The reflecting pool occupies what was once N.W. Fifth Street. Here, a shallow depth of gently flowing water provides a peaceful setting for thoughts of remembrance. At each end of the reflecting pool stand monumental twin gates which frame the pool as well as the moment of destruction, 9:02. The East Gate has the time 9:01 engraved on it and symbolizes the innocence of the city before the attack. The West Gate, which has the time 9:03 engraved upon it, represents the moment Oklahoma City was changed forever.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

The Field of Empty Chairs. Each of the 168 chairs symbolizes a life lost, with smaller chairs representing the 19 children killed. Arranged in nine rows, one for each of the nine floors of the building, they are placed according to the floor on which those killed were working or visiting, Each bronze and stone chair rests on a glass base etched with the name of a victim. By day, the chairs seem to float above their translucent bases. By night, the glass bases illuminate as beacons of hope.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

The Survivor Tree is a 90+-year-old American Elm. On the day of the attack, it was almost destroyed in the blast. Pieces of concrete, metal, and glass were embedded by the explosion in the tree trunk and larger limbs, while all of the smaller branches and leaves were blown off the tree. Tender care has allowed the tree to live and flourish, and it now stands as a profound symbol of human resilience.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

Looking out of the observation window in the museum, you can see the grounds, reflecting pool, Field of Chairs and the Oklahoma City Skyline.

Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

A family walks beside the reflecting pool and in front of the Field of Chairs.

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Father’s Day Cards 2015

I got some wonderful cards for Father’s Day and thought I’d share them.

Father's Day card from Ann

My Princess sent me this beautiful card. It has more touching words on the inside, but as you can probably see my eyes are already a tad watery, so we’ll leave it at that. Thank you, Princess!!

Father's Day card, front and inside left from Wendy, Jeremy, Jade and Maxwell

I’m always touched when my love of comic book superheroes, especially Superman, is remembered. Here is the front and inside left of the card I received from Wendy, Jeremy, Jade and Maxwell. Thanks to Cindy for taking photos of the card for me and sending them to me, since I wasn’t at home to receive the actual card.

Father's Day card, inside right and back of card from Wendy, Jeremy, Jade and Maxwell.

Here is the inside right and back of the card I received from Wendy, Jeremy, Jade and Maxwell. Thanks to Cindy for taking photos of the card for me and sending them to me, since I wasn’t at home to receive the actual card.

Father's Day Footprints card from my Granddaughter Abby.

At my granddaughter Abby’s school they did not have a card template for Granddads, so Abby gave me this footprint card even though it says Daddy. Thanks to Cindy for taking photos of the card for me and sending them to me, since I wasn’t at home to receive the actual card.

Thanks to all who helped me enjoy Father’s Day 2015!

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Big Time Professional Wrasslin’ in OKC

Mid South Wrestling Alliance posterSo when I arrived at our office, which turned out to be in a what-used-to-be-mall-that-everyone-went-to but, not so much anymore, on my first day at work there was this poster on the entry door, advertising an upcoming show put on by the Mid-South Wrestling Alliance.

I like going to local wrestling events and watching the working guys and gals, the ones who usually have a day job and then practice wrestling at night and put on shows on the weekend nights; sometimes to earn a little extra money, sometimes just to do what they’ve wanted to do since the first time they watched a wrestling match on TV. I know how that feels. And the show was going to be right there at the mall where our office was, so all I had to do was grab a quick dinner somewhere after work on that Friday and come back to watch the show.

Here are some photos from the Mid-South Wrestling Alliance event that Friday night.

Here's the entrance to the Mid-South Wrestling Alliance "arena" at the west end of Plaza Mayor Mall, formerly Crossroads Mall.

Here’s the entrance to the Mid-South Wrestling Alliance “arena” at the west end of Plaza Mayor Mall, formerly Crossroads Mall. I estimated the gate to be about 200 people.

MId South Wrestling ring

Admission is very reasonable, only $6 and I found a place to sit on the highest section of wooden benches. I thought the ring we used to work in for Renegade Wrestling was pretty bad, but this one looks like it’s even worse, though I can’t say for sure since I didn’t work it. However, pay close attention to the unwrapped ring ropes in the right corner; they’ll come into play later.

MSWA Wrestlers honor Dusty Rhodes with the tolling of the ring bell 10 times.

Before the matches began, the entire roster came out for the tolling of the ring bell 10 times in memory of the recent passing of wrestling legend Dusty Rhodes.

Best match of the night.

The card had 6 or 7 matches that night. These two guys were the best match of the night, but I can’t tell you their names because the sound system wasn’t very clear. In fact, it was worse than using the drive-thru speaker at a fast food restaurant.

This guy won the "Best Costume Award", at least in MY book. But he made a laughing stock out of himself when (remember that unwrapped ring rope I told you to make note of?) he tried to make a flip-off-the-rope entrance, slipped, and landed mask first (yes, he wore the mask throughout the match) in on the mat with the crowd simultaneously gasping (because it looked like he had broken his neck) and laughing (when they realized he hadn't). They really should fix that rope.

This guy won the “Best Costume Award”, at least in MY book. But he made a laughing stock out of himself when (remember that unwrapped ring rope I told you to make note of?) he tried to make a flip-off-the-rope entrance, slipped, and landed mask first (yes, he wore the mask throughout the match) on the mat with the crowd simultaneously gasping (because it looked like he had broken his neck) and laughing (when they realized he hadn’t). They really should fix that rope.

I watched the heel in the opening bout try to apply the figure 4 leg lock on the babyface the WRONG way and could see the face trying to whisper and motion to him, without being obvious, that he needed to go the OTHER way.

The third match of the night involved a wrestler in a red body suit, boots, and mask, with the word “Fuego” (Spanish for “Fire”) in yellow on his ass. A woman in a ringside seat kept yelling “Get ‘im Foo Ego” and “Come on Foo Ego!”, in all seriousness until she finally heard the crowd pronouncing it correctly about halfway through the match. I could not stop laughing.

By the time the show was over, about 2 hours later, my ass was dead asleep from sitting on the wooden bench, but I had enjoyed some fun entertainment.

And that was my night of Big Time Professional Wrasslin’ in OKC.

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Did You Know…? Happy Birthday, SPAM!

SPAM, the canned-meat product from Hormel, turns 78 years old today. Anytime in the past that I’ve seen an open can of SPAM it looked like it was ALREADY at least 78 years old!

Now, I have eaten SPAM, but it has been so long ago that I’m sure I have purged all evidence it was ever in my body. And the only way I could eat it was to slice it VERY thin and then fry the thin slice until it was, as my late father would say, “as tough as shoe leather” before I could even put it in my mouth.

My late paternal grandfather owned an auto repair garage across the street from a Hormel plant. He would say that, at the end of each shift, he would see workers grab brooms and shovels and they would sweep and shovel up all the scraps of meat and meat by-products off the floor, and that is what they used to make SPAM.  He was joking, but yuck!

SPAM in and out of can

What is SPAM, really?

It is precooked pork and ham in a can, with a little potato starch, salt, and sugar. Sodium nitrate is added to keep it pink; without it, pork tends to turn gray.

There’s no consensus on what the name actually stands for; one theory is that it’s a combination of “spiced meat” and “ham.” In Britain, where it was a popular wartime food, they called it “Specially Processed American Meat” or “Supply Pressed American Meat.” A host of tongue-in-cheek acronyms have also arisen, like “Something Posing As Meat,” and “Special Product of Austin, Minnesota,”

Whatever it stands for, Hormel specifies that it should be written in all caps.
Thanks to The Writer’s Almanac for portions of the above.

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I’d “Sooner” Not – Part 1

A native of Oklahoma asked me the other day, “Do you know why all the trees in Texas lean north?”

“No,” I replied, “Why?”

“Because Oklahoma sucks!”

Well, I understand the sentiment.

Oklahoma State OutlineI don’t have many good memories of Oklahoma. When I left this place some 36 years ago I was glad to leave and thought I would never be back. For the most part, my 3 ½ years here were a time in my life that I would have preferred be forgotten. In fact, as I cast about my mind I find the door is still pretty securely locked on that time, so much so that I’m not completely sure of most dates and/or time spans. The hazards, I suppose, of trying to purposefully forget a life or time of your life.

I can only recall four positive events of my time here;

  1. The birth of my son and being the first one to hold him. Cradling his little newborn self in my arms in the delivery room is a feeling and memory I’ll always cherish.
  2. My toddler daughter and I playing in the first snow we had ever seen; making a snowman and tossing snowballs at each other. Her delightful laughter and beautiful smile will always stay with me.
  3. Driving to Fort Sill where my younger brother was stationed and bringing him back to spend some time with us in Oklahoma City. It was the first time we had really interacted as adults and I loved it.
  4. Driving to Southern Oklahoma to visit my maternal grandmother who was helping out some friends of the family by babysitting their son. Nana was the only grandmother I ever knew, and so many of my childhood memories are wrapped up in her care of me while my parents worked.

But being back here HAS brought some memories back, especially when I’ve driven past certain places.

A few days ago, while returning from a congressional office visit in Yukon, Oklahoma, I realized I was not far from the apartment complex we lived at when we first arrived in Oklahoma City 38 years ago.

As I drove south on MacArthur Boulevard toward N.W. 23rd Street, I was surprised at how much growth there had been in businesses along the boulevard; but, more than that, how those same businesses were either shuttered or repurposed from their original upper middle-class offices or services to now become run down pawn shops, fast food outlets, gas stations and furniture rental stores, all with bars on their windows.

Turning east on N.W. 23rd it was only a quarter mile until I reached the apartment complex on the right. This area was even more economically depressed.

The apartment complex looked like a victim of urban blight. The black wrought iron fence surrounding the complex that used to be straight and secure was worn gray in spots, bent in others and leaning over in still others, while several of the gates were locked with heavy chains. The brick buildings had been painted a cream color, but it looked like that was a long time ago. The outer walls were dull, dirty, and in some places along the first floor had been broken as if someone had hacked away at the bricks with hammers. All the nice landscaping was gone, replaced by a bare ground of dirt that was so devoid of any life-giving properties that even the weeds were dead, and piles of trash scattered about. The asphalt parking areas were pitted with holes, littered with garbage and broken, discarded children’s toys and auto parts. The windows of the apartments were caked in dust and dirt; at least the ones that weren’t broken.

As I drove around the outer perimeter I could see between the buildings into the inner courtyards and it was as if a bomb had been dropped. Just a total mess. The entire atmosphere was one of poverty, depression and hopelessness. Make no mistake, we were poor when we lived there, but the complex was not in the horrible shape I found it in that day.

I wanted to park and get out to walk over to the second floor apartment we used to live in and relive the first snow we had there when Ann, who was 2 ½ or so, and I went out and built a snowman and threw snowballs at each other (she laughed and smiled so wonderfully as we played), but it just didn’t seem like a good idea. I was a white man dressed in business attire and driving a government rental car and was already getting stares just by driving through, so I left and drove east on N.W. 23rd street.

The rest of the neighborhood surrounding the apartment is SO different as well and I know things change but it was just a shocking difference comparing what is was in my last memory so many years ago with what it was that day. The Safeway 1 ½ blocks away, that we used to sometimes walk to buy groceries, is now a decrepit looking Latina supermarket and the steakhouse restaurant where I used be the kitchen manager (in other words, cook, lol) a few more blocks down N.W. 23rd Street is now a rundown bar. The area is full of stores and businesses that are either closed or about to close, with bars on windows and doors. What used to be a middle-class part of Oklahoma City is now an area that desperately needs an injection of urban renewal efforts, but I saw no evidence that those efforts are forthcoming. Most of the faces I saw were filled with looks of quiet desperation and everyday survival defenses.

As I said, I never thought I’d come back to Oklahoma, but as long as I have to be here I’ll look around at some other parts of Oklahoma City and post at least one other recollection (hopefully with photos) of part of my time here in The I’d “Sooner” Not State.

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Throwback Thursday – July 2, 1955

That’s me, 60 years ago today, being held by my mom.

Jeff being held by his mom shortly after his birth

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Celebrating My Birthday

Birthday Cartoon

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